First,
Lying is not the exception, it's the rule.
And the people who claim to fight against it are often the best liars among us.
Let's face it. Absolute and unapologetic honesty is reserved for a select few. For the rest, mastering the art of foolproof deception is key.
Then,
The best liars are also the most liar's proof.
When you understand the characteristics of a masterful lie—its dos and don'ts—you become more adept at recognizing deception, even when it is well-executed.
By learning how to lie, you also learn how to uncover them.
1. Choose Your Lies Wisely
The more you lie, the greater the chance people uncover them and all this will end up earning you an untrustful reputation.
Lies are tools. Don't use them as a means of avoiding situations that trigger insecurities like most do. Use them to protect.
2. Don't Give Details
Keep your lie direct and simple.
Offering unsolicited details raises suspicion and creates potential weak points that could be exploited later on.
Provide only the least information necessary and observe. In most cases, no one will bother to dig deeper.
3. Build the Perfect Alibi
Even if they're unlikely to want further explanations, you want to avoid finding yourself in a situation where they do.
If you hesitate, even for a second, it's game over.
So work out a detailed and complete story in your mind before you lie.
4. Root Your Lies in Truth
By inventing elements in your false stories, you risk exposing inconsistencies that are hard to justify without resorting to further lies.
It's a precarious house of cards, ready to crumble.
Always root your lie in real and verifiable truths.
5. Redirect Attention
Lying should be your last resort. But if you can't avoid it, don't let attention linger too long on you.
Tap into people's egoistic nature by transitioning from lying to talking about them.
If done right, they'll be delighted to take the floor.
6. Control Your Body Language
Words deceive, but bodies never do.
When you lie, your body betrays you through fidgeting and grooming habits—clear signs of dishonesty.
Don't try to control these cues; suppress them.
One widely recognized posture is the hands-joined position.
7. Maintain Your Voice Level
The way you speak conveys as much if not more meaning as to what you say.
Pitch, tone, and level are all elements that showcase how confident you are.
Liars often begin with a high-volume voice but gradually lower it towards the end.
8. Keep Your Gaze Check
Contrary to popular belief, liars make more eye contact. This is how they gauge whether or not you believe their lies.
On the flip side, avoiding eye contact screams guilt.
Strike a balance. Maintain steady eye contact, but break it every 2-3 seconds.
9. Crack a Joke
Humor is a good way to hide the truth.
By incorporating jokes into your lie, it becomes difficult to distinguish between reality and jest.
Consider this your safety net. Even if someone uncovers the truth, you can still claim they failed to grasp your humor.
10. Forget the Family Issue Lie
Family issues the the classic lie used to justify all sorts of excuses.
It's a convenient alibi since most people won't dig any deeper out of respect. But that's also too suspicious. Just find something less common.
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